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Change is a Lifetime Practice

Change is a Lifetime Practice

Change is a fabulous thing, really. Without it, nothing would be possible. Sometimes we are the authors of change and can anticipate, prepare, and even look forward to it. Other times, change is unwelcome and completely unexpected.  The process of change is frequently...

THE POWER OF DISCONTENT

THE POWER OF DISCONTENT

Life is extraordinary when everything goes smoothly and there’s balance in our day-to-day. It’s easy to be content in this sweet spot and thankful for the smooth ride. But often, this balance is short-lived.  Are you feeling discontent? What does that even mean? The...

Cultivating Confidence

Cultivating Confidence

​Let’s face it, many of us struggle with confidence issues from time-to-time. The highly confident person does not typically have to battle fear, anxiety, and social anxiety on an ongoing basis the way someone who struggles with confidence does. It’s perfectly normal...

What on Earth is Toxic Masculinity?

What on Earth is Toxic Masculinity?

There’s a lot of conflicting information being circulated that has the ability to affect men’s views toward themselves, impact their self-esteem, prevent them from seeking help when they need it, and in general, affect who they’re supposed to be. I’m talking about...

Men & the Problem with Being Problem Solvers

Men & the Problem with Being Problem Solvers

He: Damn it, just let me help you! You keep going on and on about this and you don’t seem to want to do anything about it! She: I’m not asking for your help! It’s not a problem that I want to fix… there’s nothing here to fix. Will you please, just for once stop...

Passion, excitement, and a wee dose of imagination

Passion, excitement, and a wee dose of imagination

What happens to our intimate relationships when we find ourselves in a continuous loop of routine and familiarity? Many of the couples that I meet and talk to in both social environments and in therapy say that they feel extremely grateful for all that they have. A...

Who Cares? Overcoming the Barriers to Self-Care

Who Cares? Overcoming the Barriers to Self-Care

Did you know that over ten billion dollars is spent on self-help literature each year? Surely with all the wonderful wisdom and knowledge, our relationships, our health, our careers and finances should be in a state of tip-top, polished condition. Similarly, at the...

A Town Called Resilience – Part One

A Town Called Resilience – Part One

It was a day like any other day for the seaside township called Resilience. It was an idyllic, sunny, late spring day. Kids went to class, adults busied themselves at work and friends caught up for coffee and chatted. Fishing boats navigated their way through the...

Cedric and the Black Dog – Part Two

Cedric and the Black Dog – Part Two

Cedric and his black dog is a vignette that describes the experience that a lot of blokes have with depression. Often guys say that they are followed by a black dog, or they feel like they are at the bottom of a dark bottomless shaft, or that they are an actor trying...

Cedric and the Black Dog – Part One

Cedric and the Black Dog – Part One

My name is Cedric and I have a black dog that follows me everywhere. It’s not my dog. I don’t know where it came from, but it plodded its way into my house years ago, unannounced, uninvited, and the damn thing won’t leave. I’m not a dog person, so I don’t know why he...

Why Do Some Friendships Last A Lifetime?

Why Do Some Friendships Last A Lifetime?

Have you ever stopped to consider why some friendships transcend space and time and can last a lifetime, yet others seem to have an expiry date and fizzle out? Friendship is an incredibly rich experience that connects us with the world around us. The connection that...

Do You Know What You Need?

Do You Know What You Need?

If you don't know where you are going, any road will get you there. - Lewis Carroll. I had been working with a young bloke, (let's call him Alex), for several months, when he mentioned that he had been having difficulty making a decision about a promotion that he had...

The Importance of Relationships

The Importance of Relationships

The Importance of Relationships As human beings, we are born with an innate biological and neurological need to establish connects or bonds with other human beings. We are essentially the sum of the quality of our relationships with others. We are not hard-wired to be...

The Mastery of Emotion: Fear

The Mastery of Emotion: Fear

A sudden loud noise that makes us jump, a swift movement in the corner of your eye that raises the hair on the back of our neck, or a moment of sheer dread when our heart rises into our throat and our stomach plummets. The universal experience of fear that serves a...

The Mastery of Emotion: Anger

The Mastery of Emotion: Anger

We’ve all experienced it. That bubbling up of frustration when something consistently doesn’t go according to plan, the sheer exasperation of the person cutting in front of you in traffic or the argument that goes around in circles, becoming increasingly heated by the...

How to Avoid the Perils of Not Being Understood

How to Avoid the Perils of Not Being Understood

Anyone who's picked up and read the classic self-development book, "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" by Steven R. Covey, will recognize the habit of ‘seek to understand, to be understood'. This powerful paradigm shifts us away from trying to instantly...

5 Tips to Be a Normal Guy

5 Tips to Be a Normal Guy

I’m sure the moment you read the title, you knew that I wasn’t serious. You might have felt compelled to read on to get the twist - or you are genuinely curious about how to be a normal guy. If it’s the latter, give me a call and we can talk. Let’s clarify something...

My Unconquerable Soul {Invictus}

My Unconquerable Soul {Invictus}

It is a universal law, that irrespective of who we are, we will all experience travesty and triumph. It is essential to appreciate that no matter the circumstance, we are each charged with the responsibility for our own lives. While this entrustment may seem...

Big Boys Don’t Cry…

Big Boys Don’t Cry…

We all know that when you throw down the gauntlet, most guys are up for a challenge… Are you ready to tackle the next ‘Tough Mudder’ in record time? Sure! Let me show you who’s boss! Ready to dismantle the kitchen garbage disposal, blindfolded, with dinner guests...

The Changing Landscape of Fatherhood.

The Changing Landscape of Fatherhood.

Image by 白士 李  on Flickr With Father’s Day upon us, there’s always a flurry of commentary about the ever changing role of fathers and what it means to be a Dad in this day and age. If you can ignore for a brief moment the consumer emphasis of this ‘hallmark’ day, it...

Come On Dad, Read Me Another Story…

Come On Dad, Read Me Another Story…

Image: Kelly Sikkema on Flickr Reading with your kids; encouraging life long learning, curiosity and socialization in your children. As a Dad, one of my most delightful memories was reading to my boys. Naturally there were the old favorites that had to be re-told for...

What is Masculinity? Seriously Now…

What is Masculinity? Seriously Now…

Image by Moyan Brenn  on Flickr What is masculinity? Week 2 “Real men, real yoga, an inquiry into what it means to be a man through the lens of yoga, ancestry and expectation.” It’s good to be back for week two of the eight-week Sukha Yoga program for men. I chat to a...

What is Masculinity, Really?

What is Masculinity, Really?

“Place your ego aside, soak in the energy and celebrate what it’s like to be a man.” A few of many wise words expressed by Mark, our yoga teacher, during the welcoming comments of an eight-week yoga program for men. Yes, I was intrigued too when I heard that Sukha...

Zen and the Art of Profanity

Zen and the Art of Profanity

The use of profanity in therapy????? Could this be the future of therapeutic coping? Can incorporating 'expletives' into our mindfulness practices help reduce stress and create a state of calm? I've always quietly relished the used of the occasionally well placed...

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